Posts Tagged ‘self confidence’

Expect the Unexpected: Finding the Power in Being Resilient

September 19th, 2012 by Laura Longley

“Expect the unexpected.” That’s the motto of a certain reality TV show, which I’m (almost) embarrassed to say that I watch. It’s also become one of the guiding lights in my life. We cannot control events, circumstances or other people, no matter how hard we might try. The only way to deal with the uncertainty…

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Why Do I Resist Showing Appreciation to Others?

May 22nd, 2012 by Laura Longley

I have been aware for quite some time that I have difficulty expressing appreciation for others unless what they have done is significantly above and beyond. On surveys I’m loathe to rate anyone (or anything) a 5 out of 5, even when there’s nothing that could be improved. I hate standing ovations. Very occasionally I…

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Sometimes Fear Means I’m On the Right Track

May 10th, 2012 by Laura Longley

The past six months have been a time of transformation for me personally, and this has led to transformation in my business as well. I know that something new is coming for me, but it hasn’t always been clear exactly what that is. The week after I returned from vacation I had extremely low energy…

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Blockages Mean Take A Different Path

May 7th, 2012 by Laura Longley

It is amazing to me how sensitive I still am to perceived rejection or exclusion from a group.  A few months ago I began attending a local church, and recently decided to officially join. My primary reason for attending and joining a church is that I want to develop a community of friends and the…

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Another Lesson in Boundaries and Anger

May 3rd, 2012 by Laura Longley

Given the number of opportunities I’ve had recently, it seems this lesson is one I’m meant to learn well right now: when others become angry at a boundary I have set, it is not about me, but about them. My learning is to allow them to have their reaction and to not take it personally.…

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I’m Not Everyone’s Cup of Tea, And That’s Okay

April 17th, 2012 by Laura Longley

I’ve been dealing with some situations over the past several days where others have been angry or upset with me. I get a visceral reaction to others being upset with me: my heart races, I feel like I want to throw up, and my mind immediately goes to what I did wrong and how I…

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Others Provide a Mirror for My Own Issues

April 15th, 2012 by Laura Longley

A couple of days ago I met with the intuitive healer I’ve been working with. Most of the session revolved around my family of origin including my sister, my father and my mother. My mother and I are leaving in a few days to take a trip together for two weeks. I was told that…

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Maintaining Appropriate Boundaries Requires Contemplation and Trust

April 14th, 2012 by Laura Longley

Yesterday I had an opportunity to decide where to set my boundaries and how to react to a situation where they were crossed. This situation involved my ex-husband. He and I have not had an easy relationship since our divorce many years ago, but have to maintain some sort of contact because we have a…

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Who Am I When I’m Part of a Group?

April 12th, 2012 by Laura Longley

I recently attended a weekend goddess retreat with about 35 other women.  I was really excited to go to this retreat because I have been struggling to find or create a group of like-minded women where I could develop some strong relationships. This was an ideal opportunity to meet some other women who are similar…

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I Never Met a Self-Improvement Program I Didn’t Like

April 11th, 2012 by Laura Longley

A couple of years ago I was telling my therapist at the time about some book I was reading or an online program I was doing to improve my life.  I don’t remember specifically what it was or how it was supposed to make my life better, just that I was excited about it.  He…

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