Posts Tagged ‘boundaries’

What Do You Need To Tell The Truth?

September 10th, 2013 by Laura Longley

My mother and I have not always had an easy relationship. This might be news to her (part of the problem is that I’m not sure how aware she is). Recently she has taken an interest in my radio show. As you know if you listen to the show, I frequently use myself and my…

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What’s In a Name? A Lot

June 21st, 2012 by Laura Longley

I’ve decided to legally change my name. I’m going to drop my married name and go back to using my maiden name. This doesn’t sound like such a big deal, but for me there are emotions and history associated with this name change that makes it feel like a triumph for me. My name has…

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Are Authenticity and Compassion Sometimes Mutually Exclusive?

May 8th, 2012 by Laura Longley

I recently took a trip with my mother. I knew that this time with my mother would be fertile ground for my continued journey towards being more authentic. What I didn’t know, but soon discovered, was that it was also an opportunity to practice being authentic with compassion. Since my late twenties I have had…

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Another Lesson in Boundaries and Anger

May 3rd, 2012 by Laura Longley

Given the number of opportunities I’ve had recently, it seems this lesson is one I’m meant to learn well right now: when others become angry at a boundary I have set, it is not about me, but about them. My learning is to allow them to have their reaction and to not take it personally.…

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Others Provide a Mirror for My Own Issues

April 15th, 2012 by Laura Longley

A couple of days ago I met with the intuitive healer I’ve been working with. Most of the session revolved around my family of origin including my sister, my father and my mother. My mother and I are leaving in a few days to take a trip together for two weeks. I was told that…

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Maintaining Appropriate Boundaries Requires Contemplation and Trust

April 14th, 2012 by Laura Longley

Yesterday I had an opportunity to decide where to set my boundaries and how to react to a situation where they were crossed. This situation involved my ex-husband. He and I have not had an easy relationship since our divorce many years ago, but have to maintain some sort of contact because we have a…

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The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time

April 7th, 2012 by Laura Longley

My next door neighbors have two miniature greyhounds.  I’m sure they are very nice dogs, but they bark. Every time they go out into the backyard.  My computer is in the kitchen, which is at the back of the house, so I spend a lot of time there.  My bedroom is also at the back…

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Finding and Setting Appropriate Boundaries

March 30th, 2012 by Laura Longley

As I’m becoming more and more authentic, a lot of the work is around discovering and setting appropriate boundaries.  In the past I have swung like a pendulum between giving myself away – having no boundaries – and setting my boundaries so far out that no one can get in (a reaction to having given…

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