Posts Tagged ‘blame’

Edinburgh Day 1 : Trust and Faith

October 30th, 2012 by Laura Longley

I arrived at the airport in Edinburgh about 14 hours ago, at 10 AM local time. I easily made my way by taxi to the flat where I had rented a room, and met the flat owner, Eva. Eva is a transplant from Malaga in Spain. She’s been living in Edinburgh for 16 years. When…

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Ouch. That Hurts! Turning Disappointment into Inspiration

September 10th, 2012 by Laura Longley

Sometimes we get feedback that is hurtful. An experience I had recently helped me to see that this painful feedback was reinforcing what my heart had already been trying to tell me, if I had only paid attention. The rejection I experienced was the final message from the Universe that I needed to be able…

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How Laura Got Her Groove Back (It’s Not What You Think)

June 29th, 2012 by Laura Longley

Over the past few weeks, maybe even the past month, I have had times of feeling very anxious. In the past I frequently had boughts of anxiety, but over the past year or so that has become rare. I felt anxiety about some specific things, in particular two decisions I had made about the direction in…

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Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Beautiful

May 24th, 2012 by Laura Longley

I was reminded today of an old TV commercial, I think it was for shampoo, where the model displays her luxurious hair and says, “Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful.” She then goes on to tell you how you can be beautiful, too, by buying whatever the product was. This afternoon I received an email…

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Blockages Mean Take A Different Path

May 7th, 2012 by Laura Longley

It is amazing to me how sensitive I still am to perceived rejection or exclusion from a group.  A few months ago I began attending a local church, and recently decided to officially join. My primary reason for attending and joining a church is that I want to develop a community of friends and the…

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Another Lesson in Boundaries and Anger

May 3rd, 2012 by Laura Longley

Given the number of opportunities I’ve had recently, it seems this lesson is one I’m meant to learn well right now: when others become angry at a boundary I have set, it is not about me, but about them. My learning is to allow them to have their reaction and to not take it personally.…

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I’m Not Everyone’s Cup of Tea, And That’s Okay

April 17th, 2012 by Laura Longley

I’ve been dealing with some situations over the past several days where others have been angry or upset with me. I get a visceral reaction to others being upset with me: my heart races, I feel like I want to throw up, and my mind immediately goes to what I did wrong and how I…

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Others Provide a Mirror for My Own Issues

April 15th, 2012 by Laura Longley

A couple of days ago I met with the intuitive healer I’ve been working with. Most of the session revolved around my family of origin including my sister, my father and my mother. My mother and I are leaving in a few days to take a trip together for two weeks. I was told that…

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Maintaining Appropriate Boundaries Requires Contemplation and Trust

April 14th, 2012 by Laura Longley

Yesterday I had an opportunity to decide where to set my boundaries and how to react to a situation where they were crossed. This situation involved my ex-husband. He and I have not had an easy relationship since our divorce many years ago, but have to maintain some sort of contact because we have a…

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I Never Met a Self-Improvement Program I Didn’t Like

April 11th, 2012 by Laura Longley

A couple of years ago I was telling my therapist at the time about some book I was reading or an online program I was doing to improve my life.  I don’t remember specifically what it was or how it was supposed to make my life better, just that I was excited about it.  He…

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