Posts Tagged ‘anger’

No More Ms. Nice Girl

November 21st, 2016 by Laura Longley

All my life I have been told that the way I communicate is too straight forward and blunt. I have spent decades of both my personal and professional life trying to be “softer” in my communication so that I won’t offend other people. I have avoided conflict at every opportunity for fear of being judged…

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For More Peace of Mind, Stop Complaining!

February 20th, 2014 by Laura Longley

This morning at 4:45 AM I awoke to the sound of large trucks on the street below my apartment. I waited a few moments to see if they were just driving by, but they weren’t. I got up and looked out the window. There are two buildings going up nearby – one next door to…

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Ouch. That Hurts! Turning Disappointment into Inspiration

September 10th, 2012 by Laura Longley

Sometimes we get feedback that is hurtful. An experience I had recently helped me to see that this painful feedback was reinforcing what my heart had already been trying to tell me, if I had only paid attention. The rejection I experienced was the final message from the Universe that I needed to be able…

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How Laura Got Her Groove Back (It’s Not What You Think)

June 29th, 2012 by Laura Longley

Over the past few weeks, maybe even the past month, I have had times of feeling very anxious. In the past I frequently had boughts of anxiety, but over the past year or so that has become rare. I felt anxiety about some specific things, in particular two decisions I had made about the direction in…

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Trees Need Both Sunshine and Rain – and So Do I

May 21st, 2012 by Laura Longley

As I was walking in the rain this morning, I felt thankful that the rain had returned to nurture the trees and plants after more than a week of sunshine. It occurred to me that as humans, we need both sunshine and rain in our lives, too. Many of us prefer the sunny times. When…

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Another Lesson in Boundaries and Anger

May 3rd, 2012 by Laura Longley

Given the number of opportunities I’ve had recently, it seems this lesson is one I’m meant to learn well right now: when others become angry at a boundary I have set, it is not about me, but about them. My learning is to allow them to have their reaction and to not take it personally.…

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I’m Not Everyone’s Cup of Tea, And That’s Okay

April 17th, 2012 by Laura Longley

I’ve been dealing with some situations over the past several days where others have been angry or upset with me. I get a visceral reaction to others being upset with me: my heart races, I feel like I want to throw up, and my mind immediately goes to what I did wrong and how I…

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Others Provide a Mirror for My Own Issues

April 15th, 2012 by Laura Longley

A couple of days ago I met with the intuitive healer I’ve been working with. Most of the session revolved around my family of origin including my sister, my father and my mother. My mother and I are leaving in a few days to take a trip together for two weeks. I was told that…

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Maintaining Appropriate Boundaries Requires Contemplation and Trust

April 14th, 2012 by Laura Longley

Yesterday I had an opportunity to decide where to set my boundaries and how to react to a situation where they were crossed. This situation involved my ex-husband. He and I have not had an easy relationship since our divorce many years ago, but have to maintain some sort of contact because we have a…

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The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time

April 7th, 2012 by Laura Longley

My next door neighbors have two miniature greyhounds.  I’m sure they are very nice dogs, but they bark. Every time they go out into the backyard.  My computer is in the kitchen, which is at the back of the house, so I spend a lot of time there.  My bedroom is also at the back…

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