Accept Reality if You Want to Change

December 23rd, 2013 by Laura Longley

The starting point for change is with acceptance for where you are right now. When we are unhappy, but don’t know how to shift, we tend to do more of what we’ve already been doing, only harder. This never works.

If you are stuck, undoubtedly part of what you are doing is denying your reality. Nothing ever changed by you bemoaning that it shouldn’t be happening. It only changes by you being different in some way. The first way for you to begin being different is to quit fighting against reality, and accept it.

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2 Responses

  1. Hi Laura,

    I found your website through Stuart Young’s Change Your Life Blog and this is my first visit.

    I agree that it’s important to accept reality in order to change. Once we accept “what is” we stop putting energy into it so that frees us up to put that energy into something else.

    Stubbornness can sometimes be mistook for persistence and that keeps us stuck. When we are in the habit of trying to think our way out of a situation or uncomfortable feeling by focusing all our thoughts and comments on it, as you said, we actually give it more power and renewed life.

    For confident and capable people, “stopping” is sometimes the last thing we want to do…and yet that’s exactly what we need to do…stop exerting energy on the circumstance or feeling we find distasteful and release ourselves from it’s bondage.

    Thanks for sharing this timely message to help us prepare for the New Year!

    • Laura Longley Laura Longley says:

      You make some really great points, Linda! It’s true that persevering is valued in our culture, and to quit trying, even when something obviously isn’t working, can be seen as “giving up.” When in reality it’s the only rational thing to do! Thanks for sharing your viewpoint, Linda!

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